Couples Therapy for One

Relationship problems are generally connected to complex blends of issues originating within both partners. Thus, the optimal way to work through these issues is by having both partners participate actively and willingly in therapy. One of the difficulties for couples who are struggling in their marriages is the resistance of one of the spouses to engage in the counseling process. There are many reasons for this, including the fear of the unwilling partner that he or she will be blamed for the problems in the relationship and that the counselor will find him or her “guilty.”

I would like to help you to begin healing your relationship even if your spouse is unwilling or resistant to engage in a therapeutic experience. My experience working with one member of a couple has reinforced that when one person changes or shifts attitudes or behavior, the other member of the couple will be impacted and will react. Even without your partner’s presence in counseling, you can make shifts in your behaviors and attitudes that will profoundly affect your relationship and move you toward getting what you want and need. These shifts can create positive responses in your partner that will improve your relationship and move you toward the connection and satisfaction you may be longing for. When your partner experiences your shifts in thinking and doing, you may find that he/she will become a willing participant in therapy.

Doing couples therapy for one is a different experience than doing therapy with both members of the couple present; however, this does not mean it can’t a valuable and viable way to begin healing your relationship. You have the power today to make changes whether or not your partner is willing to join you in the process. I invite you to call me if you would like to discuss how I do “couples therapy for one” and what you can expect in the process.  

Lisa M. Quinn, M.F.T.

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